Monthly Archives: January 2012

Good day everyone! I’m very happy to have the opportunity to be here and visit with everyone today. When I first got the opportunity presented to me to be here, I had to think a while on subject matter. I’ve been on a blog tour for a couple of months now and my blog topic well was running a bit dry, so I asked my gracious host if she had a preference and she assured me anything to do with the lifestyle would be fine. After a bit more thinking I went to the interview I pass out for participation on my own blog site and pinpointed something that I feel is very important. The question that shouted at me was, do we have a moral obligation to our readers and how do we achieve that.

It’s my humble opinion that all romance authors hold a moral obligation to their readers, but none so more than those that choose to write in the realm of BDSM. Why? Because it’s a very unique way of loving that requires some special attention that’s why. The obligation here goes past the making sure that John has a condom on. People live this life and those that might read my work, might decide they are a dabbler and if I don’t stress the importance of safe, sane, consensual to them, I’ve not fulfilled my moral obligation. Now, how do I achieve that?

I will freely admit that when I first started writing BDSM, it was a bit herky-jerky. Like any other genre it takes practice to get it right, but it seems since I’ve started in this realm it takes a special kind of getting it right because of all the added factors. One of the standing factors that so many writers tend to forget is that there is still a story to be written about real people that have real lives and real jobs and real problems. So many times, these stories read like BDSM primers and it’s almost as if the writer has a check list of “points” they must hit, or a list of “positions and equipment” that must be used. In fact, I ran across one such story very recently. I’m an avid reader and this writer has been doing it a long time, but for some reason she chose a series to “come out” as it were after writing the first few books brilliantly, the last one I read was written like a BDSM for dummies book and I swore if I saw the words dominate, submit, submission, domination, Dom, Domme, sub, slave, or submissive one more time I would scream. It was all over every single page. And there was absolutely no story line other than the BDSM factor and if this woman was or was not Domme/sub or otherwise. Overdone, boring.

I’m deviating a bit…let me reel it back in to the topic at hand. The point is, when things like that happen, not only is the story junk, it fails to convey the message that this lifestyle is very, very real and people do live it and it fails miserably at conveying the necessity for safety and consent.

In my latest piece, Assumed Identity, which I’ll share a bit of in a moment, I could count the number of times my characters have sex on one hand. Too many times the focus is on the actual physical acts and less on the mental. I focused more on the mental/emotional aspect and wrote the story about normal everyday people that have everyday lives and the kinky sex, as some would call it, is a bonus. The conversations are not herky-jerky and contrived, and the issues of safety and consent are discussed freely and aren’t awkward. They don’t have to be. These people are perfectly “normal” save the fact they indulge in their desires. In order to get the safe, sane, consensual message across, I treat it like it’s normal everyday conversation for my players. This way it’s not forced and doesn’t come off as another “check point.” If you feel these people are “freaks” it will come off that way in your writing. If you’re writing this genre because it’s wildly popular but it squicks you out—maybe you shouldn’t. It will come off in your writing and the story becomes unnatural and the message is lost.

Needless to say, the story I mentioned above went in my DNF pile quickly. Write it real, write it safe and write it natural…

Innocent childhood games of dress-up and pretend…

Julie Stevens is as straight as they come. Or so she tries to convince herself. But it isn’t easy believing that little white lie when she has the two most sexually eccentric best friends on the planet. One is a bi-sexual Domme who believes if it looks fun, try it. The other is a gay man in the role of slave to his very sexy Master whom Julie often wishes wasn’t gay. Dante’s commanding presence makes her want to do things that set her on fire with need and embarrassment. Given her boring vanilla life, how exactly does she fit into their world? Would they like to have a shinier third wheel?

Are a completely different animal for grownups…

After one wild evening and a bit too much liquid encouragement, Julie discovers a side of herself she’s always tried to ignore. The realization she’s a sub not only scares her, it excites her and she yearns for more. But the process of finding the right man to teach her becomes a real issue, until Mason comes along. He’s everything Julie imagines a Dom should be. Armed with her masque and Renaissance costume, Julie is thrown for a loop when the handsome Master draws more willingness out of her than she ever thought possible. Is it possible she’s more than a submissive? And will the assumptions he’s made about her identity end up tearing them apart?

“What’s edge play?” Julie asked quickly as she scooped a heap of mashed potatoes on her plate. “I’m getting in a copy of The Federalist Monday. It should be interesting to see what sort of condition it’s in.”

Blake stopped mid-chew from his station at Dante’s feet and Dante dropped his fork. It hit his plate with a clatter then bounced to the floor where Blake fumbled for it before hopping up to go to the kitchen and replace it with a clean one.

“I thought Allen covered that with you,” Dante said, grasping the arms of his chair.

“Allen skimmed over it and said I wasn’t cut out for it in his opinion. Mason thinks he was wrong,” Julie said, twisting her napkin in her lap. “What do you think?”

Blake came back in, handed Dante another fork, and fell back to his position between Dante’s legs. This was the first time since they’d been together that they’d displayed this part of their relationship so fully in front of her. She assumed it was because she had now been introduced to this side of life and would soon be joining their ranks. At least she hoped so. If she could do what Mason wanted. If not she was back to square one. Square one wasn’t all that appealing at this point.

“I…” Dante cleared his throat, apparently quite taken aback that she’d asked this. “You have a lot of the traits that would indicate you might be someone that could take that kind of intense play.”

“How do you know?”

“Do you even realize what kind of pressure you put on yourself to maintain a sense of everything being right in your world?” Dante asked with his eyebrows scrunched together. “It’s overkill. And I know about all your thrill seeking. You’re a closeted adrenaline junkie. Edge play goes past what normal play does for a sub. Endorphins to the nth degree. You need someone to control it for you, Jules.”

“Does everyone talk about me behind my back?” Julie asked, throwing her napkin down and standing. She shot a glare at Blake who was busy looking at the floor. Was there anything he hadn’t told Dante?

“No, they don’t,” Dante said with force, standing as well. “Only the people that give a damn about you do. Jesus Christ, Jules. All we want is for you to be happy and cared for. Blake’s told me a lot about your past because he worries about you and needed somewhere to go with it. He can’t hold the world’s secrets and not be expected to have a release valve. Hell, you need somewhere to go with it.”

“How do you know what I need?” she snapped, turning on her heel and knocking her chair over in the process. When Blake scrambled to right it, she whirled around and started for the door.

“Well, you sure as hell don’t know. If you did you’d have it by now,” Dante roared.

“I don’t have it because I’m…” She grabbed her purse and slung it over her shoulder. “It’s none of your damn business why,” she shot over her shoulder and headed for the door again.

One simple question and it had turned into this. What was this? Exactly?

“Stop,” Dante said, using his voice of authority.

“Fuck off, Dante, you’re not my Master.”

Julie heard Blake gasp and hurry off on his hands and knees. She could just see him cowering on his princess cushion with his head down. Before she managed to get the door open, both Dante’s hands landed on the solid oak structure on either side of her, caging her in. Her chest tightened as panic set in and she pushed against him in an effort to get him out of her space.

“Let go,” she cried as Dante leaned into her pinning her to the door.


“I. Said. Let. Go,” she gritted out. Her jaw was so tight it ached.

“I said no,” he answered before removing one hand from the door and wrapping it around one of her wrists before pulling her arm behind her back further limiting her range of movement. “Stop running, Jules. You ran from your life, you ran from Shelby trying to forget your life, and now you’re trying to run from us and from Mason. Stop. Running.”


Author Bio:

Lila Munro currently resides on the coast of North Carolina with her husband and their two four-legged kids. She’s a military wife with an empty nest and takes much of her inspiration for her heroes from the marines she’s lived around for the past fifteen years. Coining the term realmantica, she strives to produce quality romance in a realistic setting. Her genre of choice is contemporary romance that spans everything from the sensual to BDSM and ménage. When she’s not writing, she enjoys reading everything she can get her hands on, trips to the museum and aquarium, taking field research trips, and soaking up the sun on the nearby beaches. Her works include The Executive Officer’s Wife, Bound By Trust, Destiny’s Fire, Salvation, Three for Keeps, the Force Recon series, the Slower Lower series, and the Identity series. She’s a member in good standing of RWA and Passionate Ink. Currently she’s working on sequels to several series to be released throughout 2012. And has a brand new line scheduled for winter 2012-13. Ms. Munro also works as the VP of Business Affairs for Rebel Ink Press. She loves to hear from her readers and can be contacted via her website  or through Facebook at You can also contact her via email at For more information about Rebel Ink Press please visit their website at

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A Zombie Hunter’s Holiday
D.X. Luc
New Concepts Publishing [link to buy]
ASIN B007014Q34

Rating: 3.5 out of 5 Paddles

A Zombie Hunter’s Holiday by D.X. Luc is a fast and fun read. The main characters are Raina and Carl, who have been friends since childhood. Carl has been talking about zombies and hunting them since the ninth grade and Raina has always indulged him. Fifteen years later, they’re still best friends and fighting underlying desires for each other.

Raina is dating a guy named Brian who Carl is not a fan of. He treats Raina badly but she thinks she needs to stay with him. One day, Brian proposes and Raina accepts and Carl can’t take it anymore. He ends up at her apartment and they end up in a hot table sex scenario with Carl running the show. Raina shuts down on him after that, avoiding him at all costs.

Christmas Eve arrives and Raina’s whole world turns upside down. Not only does it turn out that zombies are real and that Carl really has been hunting them but now her fiancé has been bitten by one! He is coming after her inside are apartment when Carl shows up to save the day. They make for the safe zone he knows about but can’t quite keep on course without pulling over for a quickie. They make it to the compound only for Carl to leave again to save his brother. But, it turns out Raina has to go and save the day. Once they get back, they discover how deep their feelings run and have a hot steamy session in the shower. Their life is forever changed, both in their acknowledgement of their feelings and the zombie outbreak.

This story isn’t really kinky but it is fun and it based in a genre that I love. I mean, who doesn’t love a great zombie story? The only thing I wish from this story is that it was longer. The Paddle Rating based on story alone is 3.5 but only a 2 in the BDSM element.

Reviewed by BzzingBee

The 18th Floor
Margie Church
Sizzler Editions [link to us]

Rating: 3.5 out of 5 Paddles

Alexa has been eying her coworker Sebastian for some time now. When a chance meeting in a conference room and some boldness that Alexa never knew she had, brings them together the sparks fly. When both Alexa’s and Sebastian’s pasts come looking for them they both must learn to trust each other and their love.

Sebastian is a nice man and a good Dom when it comes to Alexa. He is willing to bring her into his world slowly. Alexa is more than willing to try new things with Sebastian and longs to please him. While I enjoyed seeing their relationship start to develop Sebastian and Alexa were not for me. I had a hard time connecting with them and found this book a dry read at times. I would have liked a bit more character development. Both have their past show up and quickly dealt with. Sebastian’s problems with his past seem like a blip in the story that seem to have not really been dealt with completely and while Alexa’s past is dealt with more in the book it still seemed a bit rushed.

As this is a review site for BDSM books and such I will mention the sex. There is a lot and most of it with Alexa and Sebastian is light on the BDSM. There is one scene where he shows her his lifestyle and his friends, which does include Alexa watching a flogging but that is about the extent of it. I would have enjoyed a bit more diversity in their sex; it seemed to me that the spanking was a bit overdone. I know it was pivotal to the story and pertained to Alexa’s past as well but at times it got to be much.

While this story is not a favorite for me I did enjoy this authors writing style and will be sure to check out other books to find a favorite.

Reviewed by Gabrielle

Blushing Violet
Ann Mayburn
Ellora’s Cave [link to buy]

Rating: 5 out of 5 Paddles

Quite honestly, I was really jealous of Violet. A large (Size 16) redhead, she has suffered verbal abuse from her family and her stick-in-the-mud ex fiancé. This has left her with a severe inferiority complex, particularly when it comes to sex.

But her imagination is vivid and she reads lots of erotic stories including BDSM. She decides to find a mate through a website that matches people by their taste in literature.

Enter not one, but two gorgeous Doms who both see Violet as their perfect mate. Carlos Romano and Morgan Kane are close friends and business partners, and they decide to let Violet decide which one she wants-but they don’t tell her they know each other.

She dates each of them for a while, but being honest that she is seeing another man. They both offer sexual and personal satisfaction and they begin hinting they want to share her with the other man in her life. She agrees, but freaks out afterwards and refuses to discuss it for a time. They finally make her see that what they did was all right with all of them. Shortly after this, she discovers that they are close friends and she feels they have been making a fool of her and she leaves.

They do finally achieve their HEA. This is a hot book, with pretty believable characters, although the Doms are a little too close to perfect. Lots of sex, including bondage, D/s and more make this book steamy.

This was a new author for me, but one whose work I thoroughly enjoyed and I will be looking for additional books by her. The story was well thought out and interesting, there were few editing errors, and overall a fun, exciting read.

Reviewed by Karen H

Finding Angel
Jan Graham
Siren Publishing [link to buy]

Rating: 4 out of 5 paddles


Angel Wylde is a woman with a complicated existence, a damaging past, and a desire to be normal. Unfortunately, what’s normal to Angel is unconventional to the rest of us. A crime boss will kill to get an incriminating ledger from her. Detective Steve Jax also wants the ledger from Angel, but the infuriating woman has disappeared.

Christian and Daniel Shore, Steve’s two best friends, don’t know about the ledger. They just want Angel. A chance meeting has them taking her home and deciding she is the only woman for them—yes, both of them. Obviously, Angel isn’t the only one with unconventional desires. So who does Angel trust? Two kinky Doms she just met, a cop she doesn’t know anything about, or a nasty crime boss? Trusting all of them may save her life, and falling in love with two Dominant brothers is the icing on the cake.


Finding Angel is an erotic, romantic, suspense novel. I found it to be engrossing, funny, heart wrenching, heart warming, and full of emotion. At times, it did seem to drag and it is a long novel at about 400 pages, but I couldn’t stop reading it.

Angel has had her share of abusive relationships and it’s surprising that she still can and wants to be a submissive. As we follow Angel through her unique relationships with an abuser, a drug lord, a detective and finally two dominants, we learn a lot about love, life and her path to happiness. Angel has a life most of us can’t relate to but it is told so well, I felt like I was there with her through it all. She is a wonderful character fun of strength, fears, love and more. I laughed and cried with her several times.

The BDSM isn’t hardcore in this, but their unique relationship is one of D/s with some spanking, bondage and more thrown in – and very very erotic. Christian and Daniel are perfect for Angel and while the relationship they form is not standard, but works well for all involved. I have to admit I was emotionally invested with all the characters in this story, from the main three to many of the secondary.

Reviewed by Star

Maria-Claire Payne
Pink Petal Books [link to buy]

Rating: 3 out of 5 Paddles

Part psycho-thriller, part romance. Lots of sex, mostly lightly kinky.

Travis, a gifted genius; Cara, his wife of 15 years and light of his life; Sebastian, psychiatrist, biochemist, heir to a fortune, sarcastic bastard and best friend.

In a “dark ops” facility jokingly dubbed BTU – nominally Brain Trust University – but more as a poke at the amount of energy the gifted and brilliant devote to their projects is an intrigue that threatens not only their relationships, but national security. In the process of solving a mathematical model that could change the world they examine aspects of one another and themselves.

With surprisingly good character development in a short time we get at look at the dynamics of Travis and Cara’s relationship. He’s literal and analytical and is always in control, which is handy when he and Cara get playful. The story takes some unexpected twists and turns and is engaging all the way to the end. A fast paced romantic thriller; also an unexpected formula that the author works very effectively.

Reviewed by Somewhat Bent

Nursing a Grievance
Lance Edwards
Pink Flamingo Publications [link to buy]

Rating: 3 out of 5 Paddles

Two sexy nurses, Sara and Shanna become fast friends and lesbian lovers while working together at the hospital. Shanna is new to the hospital as her mentor and lover shows her the ropes. Some of it is fun and games with how they sexually torment the patients. What Shanna doesn’t know and is rudely forced to accept is the nasty male orderlies and doctors who all want a piece of her ass or pussy. For Shanna who is now converted over to Sapphic love, it is intolerable. Sara who started out as the dominant older partner in the relationship quickly switches to submit to the sadistic Shanna.

This story quickly deteriorates from a sweet loving lesbian liaison to sadistic sexual domination by Goddess Shanna. I have to state, just in case people were confused, this is a purely fantasy BDSM story. Very little in this book can be used in real life without severe nerve damage and scarification if not death. Basically, my one and only warning – try this at home at your own risk of death. Shanna is a fast learner as she reams Sara’s asshole raw with strap-ons, dildos and her fist. She imposes no limits on what kind of damage she does to Sara’s body. Between the violent whippings, forced gagging, pussy busting and ass ripping sex, I’m surprised Sara can make it to work. Fortunately for Sara, Shanna sets her sights on skinny underdeveloped 18 year old boy who desperately wants to escape his stepmother. Allen believes he is saved by these two angels of mercy. This is where the real fun begins.

To say that Allen has jumped from the frying pan into the fire is an understatement. By the time Shanna is through with Allen renamed Aileen, he’s turned into a sexy voluptuous she-male cock-sucking, butt-fucked slut. Poor Aileen has been through so many body modifications his own step mother wouldn’t recognize him. Sara and Shanna have not ended their cruelty with Aileen. Each time they are harassed by any male at the hospital, they take out their grievances on the weeping Aileen. The toilet-slave will soon receive some additional body modifications which will burn her into horrifying screams. The story ends before we learn more of abused Aileen’s new life.

The BDSM in here is definitely not for the faint of heart. It’s for those who enjoy the heavy S/M and BD. I would have said D/s but it just didn’t sit right for me. This is one of those femdom stories which generally push outside most people’s comfort zones. Still, it was a hot read despite the wicked debauchery. I recommend this only to the hardcore BDSM lovers who enjoy a sadistic Domme. There is no romance in this book and the happily ever after is only for the depraved Domme.

Reviewed by Book Addict

V J Summers
Ellora’s Cave [link to buy]

Rating: 3 out of 5 Paddles

Is BDSM an art? For Thomas and Ryan it is, at least for tonight. Master Thomas is, it seems, an artist of sorts, and his canvas is his submissive Ryan. The medium is wax – hot wax – and it’s not just painting, it’s a show. Melting is a short (under 15,000 words) novella describing a single scene between Thomas and Ryan, put on before a few of their close friends. It’s a special night, arranged by Thomas as a reward for his treasured sub, who has had a difficult year at work. There’s obviously a lot of love between these two, and Thomas’ application of fire, and a little ice, sends Ryan flying through his subspace.

It’s a sweet and sexy scene. My only real issue with it is that it’s just so short. Like most any short story, it leaves me wanting more, feeling that so much has been left unexplored. There’s mention of a rocky start to their relationship, as well as the trials of Ryan’s job. It’s clear the author has thought of the character’s back-story, and so it would be nice to have had a lot more of it to give more context to the scene and it’s importance for the men.

Reviewed by Michael Joseph