Monthly Archives: September 2013

Coming Unbound by Lacey Savage coming

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Story Rating: 4.5 out of 5 paddles

Sting Factor (kink): 4.5 out of 5

Review:

This is a charming little short story about a woman who struggles to overcome her perceived shortcomings to become a fully sexual wife to her husband. It is well written, and holds the reader’s interest, as well as containing some really hot sex scenes.

Ginny has never had an orgasm with her beloved husband Cole. She feels like a failure and finally agrees to a surprise he has planned to spice up their sex life. She doesn’t know what to think when the surprise turns out to be another man, a Dom, who is going to train Cole to give her what she needs.

The problem is what she needs is pain and her first boyfriend dumped her and called her names when she asked him for what she needed. She is afraid if she asks for pain, her husband will think she’s a slut, but she just cannot reach climax without it.

Can Dom Eric actually break through her walls and bring her and Cole to the understanding that they need?

The story includes bondage, whipping, piercing, anal, and double penetration, which is a lot in just a few pages, but it comes together well.

Reviewed by Karen

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H.C. Brown

Susan Swift

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Lily Harlem

Claire Thompson

Jennifer Kacey

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Ian Mason

Gianna Simone

Ivory Quinn

August Renfelt

I.G. Frederick

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Cynnara Tregarth

Reggie Alexander

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Kassandra Cox

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Best Sex Writing 2013 edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel bestsexwriting

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ISBN-10: 1573448990

ISBN-13: 978-1573448994

Story Rating: 3 out of 5 paddles

Sting Factor (kink): 3 out of 5

Review:

This is filled with opinions and editorials rather than fictional erotic stories. Although some of these are questionable in their facts. My review is going to be a bit different than usual. These are my own opinions based on these sexually charged articles. I’m dividing them up into how I felt about each chapter. Instead of listing the best first, I’m going to start with the articles that I enjoyed and end with ones I thought were best. I’m going to stick the ones I loathed in the middle so that people will forget they even existed.

Good Vibrations

There are two in here which I read and just felt good while reading them. The book kicks off with Live Nude Models by Jonathan Lethem. It’s a sweet trip down memory lane for the writer who started early on as an artist. Oh Baby! Baby Talk by Rachel Kramer Bussel deals with a much disparaged ageplay fetish. Since I adore ageplay, I appreciated this one. Ms. Bussel, will you my Mommy?

Much to do about nothing

Holy Fuck: The Fourth-and-Long Virgin by Jon Pressick just makes me shake my head. I agree with Mr. Pressick. Tim Tebow is an athlete who is a virgin. So what? Mr. Pressick makes good points about the sexual expectations of a star athlete. When did we become a society where hypocrisy is the acceptable norm? We don’t want people telling us what to do yet we want to force our stereotypes upon others. Really, who the fuck cares if Tebow is a virgin? People with too much time on their hands.

Why is this illegal?

These two stories probably lead me down the path of damnation. In Rest Stop Confidential by Conner Habib, it exposes the allure of anonymous sex in public men’s restrooms. I never understood the problem with having sex in a bathroom. What’s the issue here again? It’s not like the men are exchanging money. Okay, I get that we shouldn’t push “our” kinks upon others in public. I guess I wonder why people are riveted watching animals having sex at the zoo yet we can’t have sex in public restrooms. Not that I would want to have sex in a public bathroom, because they are filthy germ ridden and potentially spider infested nastiness rooms.

The second one which makes me scratch my head is Happy Hookers by Melissa Gira Grant. This essay is all about the “oldest professional” in the world. Why is this still illegal? I never understood why it’s bad to pay for sex.

Poly good, bad and ugly

These two essays deal with poly relationships. Sex by Numbers by Rachel Swan shows a working poly formation with ups and downs. It’s not perfect, but it’s possible. When on Fire Island A Polyamorous Disaster by Nicholas Garnett is not a flattering look at a married couple who try out swinging. It’s a train wreck which is uncomfortable to witness even second or third hand.

I hear you

These are ones which are just okay for me. I felt nothing. There were a couple of good points.  Such as Porn defends the money shot by Dennis Romero. This is the argument as to why condoms aren’t used in porn flicks. The porn addicts paying for it don’t want to see the love glove. With an abundance of free porn through internet, it’s difficult to sell porn with actors using prophylactics.

Very legal: sex and love in retirement by Alex Morris enlightens me on grandma sex and why they don’t get hitched again. Not too applicable for me now, but good to note when I’m old, alone and in a nursing home. Cherry Picking by Julia Serano is a little boy coming of age story as he turns into a sexually aware young lady.  It’s sweet.

Oddly enough, even though I’m submissive, Submissive a personal manifesto by Madison Young was just okay for me. I understand her different roles. The ending just seemed over the top.

Fail

If I went by the lowest ratings, this collection would be a 1 star based on these two articles. Sex by Any Other Name by Insiya Ansari can be summed up in one word – Cocktease.  I didn’t care for this one at all. The girl comes across pretentious.

Christian Conservatives vs. Sex The Long War over reproductive freedom by Rob Boston is a total fail for me. Here are some points which I’d like to have taken into consideration.

Arizona’s House Bill 2625 was a response to Obama mandating there should be no co-pay for women at all when it comes to birth control.  Arizona seems to have a knee jerk response against Obama and based upon Obama’s constant opposition with them, it’s not a surprise. Early on, Arizona made some legislations which they felt makes sense for their state. It’s the United States of America. Depending on a person’s personal leanings, they may agree with a Federal versus State legislation. However, each state is different and can have different needs. When Arizona was called out early on during the first term, this riled them up. Seriously, where is the common sense? You try to bully or bash a person or entity in the public, what would their response be?  Once, they get miffed. More than twice, they now consider you an enemy. Ever cross a person before? They will hold a grudge and next time you have something important, they’ll block it just for the sake of blocking. This is basic negotiation class 101 material.

Second, the law does NOT say women can’t have contraceptives. Somehow the article devolves into women dying of abortion because conservative Christians aren’t letting women get free contraceptives. So, contraceptives are no longer going to be made?  The Pill and other contraception will now be illegal? Do the pharmaceutical companies know this?  Do the manufactures know this? What the bill is saying is employers are not forced to keep it as something they must cover. It gives employers the choice to opt out of covering for it. Women and men can still buy it and pay for it themselves.

“Boo hoo hoo! The drugs costs too much! The mean company I work for SHOULD pay for it. It’s my constitutional right.” Let me get this straight, my premium now needs to go up due to a service I don’t use, because you want it for free?  There’s something called free will. If your employer doesn’t cover it and it’s a big deal for you, find a new employer. Or better yet, let’s ask the real question no one seems to be asking. This is the one which I find interestingly suppressed.

The problem is. the cost of the different birth control pills and devices are so expensive. Why? If the issue is that the drugs are not affordable, let’s determine the cause. Is it a monopoly? Is it a collusion? Why blame employers? Let’s look at the root of the problem – the drug companies selling it at these so called unaffordable prices. Or is it the insurance companies. Do we even know how much this costs?

As a last thought on this one. Is Viagra covered? If it is, then I can just as easily make the supposition that these lawmakers are really against women’s equality for allowing Viagra or any sexual enhancing drug to be covered for free or co-pay. Because this means heterosexual males using this will be sexing up their females which results in pregnancy. It’s clear the purpose of covering Viagra is oppression of women through getting them knocked up. Women will be stuck at home pumping out kids and squirting out milk to feed them. This is just as ludicrous as equating allowing employers to opt out resulting in women dying from using hangers to scrape out a baby they don’t want.

Slit my wrists now

These articles just depressed me. They are moving and one can feel the pain emanating off the pages. The title Ghosts: All my men are dead by Carol Queen says it all. Lost boys by Kristen Hinman is a deeper look at young boys selling their bodies for various reasons. Dear John by Lori Selke is just sad. The divergence between her kinky style and the current Leatherman culture is just depressing.

Notes from a Unicorn by Seth Fischer hits home for me. His struggle is aggravating because  I find it’s unnecessary to force people into roles and labels. His experience is heartbreaking. I think bi-sexual males are worse off than bi-sexual females.

The Original Blonde by Neal Gabler is a lovely tribute to Jean Harlow. It’s also a tragic look at the rise and fall of a young sassy woman. In ten years, she lived a live more drama ridden then most people who live twice her age.

Thought Provoking

There are several articles which I found myself musing over for days after reading it. I want my friends to read this book so I can discuss these particular ones with them. Can a better vibrator inspire an Age of Great American Sex? by Andy Isaacson falls into this category. This article makes good points about removing the stigma of with selling and buying sexual aids. With vibrators moving into stores other than dingy back alley sex stores, it’s no longer a dirty secret.  Having spent several hundreds of dollars on different sex toys, I can agree that better vibrators will inspire greater American sex. My orgasms have shown great improvement with my purchase.

Enhancing Masochism: How to Expand Limits and Increase Desire by Patrick Califia is by far, the best one for me. 5 star material all the way. He spends time distinguishing between abuse and non-abuse.

Is there any objective proof that people who get wet during a spanking are also getting ripped off financially, intimidated by bullies, anorexic, being battered, or likely to engage in self-mutilation? No. And there never will be, because we are conflating two separate categories of human experience. One is a sexual identity or experience; the other is a state of disenfranchisement, oppression, traumatization or self-hatred. People consent to the former; they wish they could escape the latter(p. 119).

The one which captures my submissive essence is Mr. Califia’s point below.

The submissive wants to be possessed and yield to another person; they want to be of service. They will take pain if you make it their job to take it. The pain becomes one item on a menu of conduct or sacrifices that you, the master or mistress, demand because it pleases you. Pain becomes a way to demonstrate your control over him or her (p. 119).

This collection of writings is for kinky readers who want a book they can think about and discuss with others.

Reviewed by Book Addict

Editorial Board by Anastacia Vitsky Editorial-Board

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Story Rating: 4 out of 5 paddles

Sting Factor (kink): 2 out of 5

Review:

For the first half of Anastasia Vitsky’s Editorial Board, had the copy I was reading not been given to me to review by a publisher that specializes in kinky books, I would not have known that the book contained erotic content. It seemed to be no more than a mildly interesting tale about an author suffering from writer’s block and performance anxiety who is making her boss’s and new editor’s lives miserable with her prima donna attitude and excuses for not completing her assignments. The closest thing to a clue that there might be some sexual naughtiness afoot comes fairly deep into the story in an emailed rant sent by Spring in which she implies that Rachel probably secured her job as editor by sleeping with Merry, the owner.

Soon after that episode Spring quits and begins wallowing in self-pity, fully expecting that her writing career is over. To her surprise, Rachel shows up to save her from herself. Thankfully for the smut junkies who are the potential buyers of this book, she doesn’t just use reason or threats to prod her errant writer to get with the program. Indeed, she uses something much more compelling, the editorial board, a small paddle that fits comfortably in her hand and commands strict compliance from recalcitrant brats such as Spring.

Sadly, most of this motivational activity is only touched upon lightly. The balance of the book primarily involves Spring struggling with her writing issues and Rachel “encouraging” her to stay focused. Alas, she reaches another impasse in her writing and begins to despair. Rachel comes to the rescue and as the story winds down she announces that they are to be lovers, which precipitates the literary equivalent of fade-to-black.

Overall, this story is well written and fairly interesting. But from an erotica standpoint, it is rather tame. Whether or not this is intentional, it seems to be written to appeal to a reader with little or no experience with this subject matter. Whereas I am a proponent of using restraint and subtlety in erotica, this is way too genteel to hold the interest of a large contingent of erotic literature readers, including the readers who frequent this site.

Reviewed by Jim Lyon

On Location by Sindra van Yssel onlocation

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Story Rating: 3 out of 5 paddles

Sting Factor (kink): 3 out of 5

Review:

A headstrong female clashes with a domineering male seems to be a popular theme. Ms. van Yssel’s interpretation of it is arousing and amusing. Teresa’s job is a terrific one. She flies to different locations to determine how it can be used in movies. There are people who have jobs just to check out cities, tropical island and exotic locales? Where does one apply for this job?

Teresa’s latest assignment takes her to Submission Island. It’s a little island in the South Pacific, totally wrong vegetation for the Mediterranean movie she’s been tasked to work on. It makes no sense, but she’s paid to do the job, not question the director. Submission Island is owned by four Doms. The one in resident, Kyle, is a curmudgeon.  He does come across initially as domineering which quickly switches over to dominating. His laconic dialoged and steely glare puts Teresa on the offense. Watching the two of them spar with words and push against each other’s misconception is entertaining.

When the whips and chains come out to play, it gets really good. The BDSM resort female guest rooms are a fantasy come true. This is a bit more fanciful than some of Ms. van Yssel’s other works. While the exquisite erotic tortures perpetuated by Kyle’s experiences hands are to die for, they are more romantically portrayed then her usual realism. It is hawt to read and sexily stimulating. This is the kind of kinky BDSM many readers long for and  Ms. van Yssel delivers.

The focus of the story is Teresa and Kyle’s relationship. This could be just an erotic BDSM awakening story. Ms. van Yssel adds in a surprisingly believable suspense twist. This strengthens the overall story. Tying in secondary characters who become main characters for a set of four in this series also increases the appeal. While I did not read the first book in this series, after reading this one, it makes me want to go read the first one and eagerly await the rest to be written.  Recommended for kinky readers who love romance.

Reviewed by Book Addict

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BLURB:

Sara leads a double life: CFO by day, sexual submissive at night. When her Master dies suddenly, Sara discovers his will leaves her to his nephew, as though she’s a valuable piece of furniture. She’s ready to move into a hotel when she gets her first sight of the new owner, gorgeous six-foot-five Cal. Sara has a sudden desire to kneel at his feet. Only problem, he’s not a Dom.

Cal, a gifted but impoverished composer, barely knew his uncle. So it’s a shock to inherit Bruno’s fortune … and his sexual submissive. Under the terms of the will, they’ll have to live as roommates before Cal can deed the house to her. Smart, lovely and graceful, Sara drives Cal crazy with desire. Only problem, he’s not a Dom.

Cal is used to directing an orchestra to create the performance he wants, but he has to visit The Club to understand why his uncle left him The Bequest.

EXCERPT:

When the car service drove up to the house, Cal got out first, then reached back to help Sara out, making her feel delicate and special. Worshipped. He took a long time appreciating the looseness of her bodice, running his finger along the edge of fabric, before putting his arm around her waist and leading her toward the house.

They walked together into the hallway.

“Give me the tour of the dungeon.”

“All right.” She started toward the door to the basement, but his hand on her nape stopped her.

“I don’t think you need the dress down there, do you?” His eyes were darkest chocolate. So addictive.

“No, Cal.” She stood still while he unzipped the dress, slipping the shoulder straps down her arms. When the dress was a ring of coral on the floor, he took her hand and helped her step over the fabric. It was a courtly gesture, like Sir Francis Drake or something. Only Queen Elizabeth had never been caught wearing a nearly transparent bra, a white lace garter belt, fancy silk hose and black Louboutins. Oh, and no panties.

He picked up the dress and folded it over the back of a kitchen chair. She couldn’t say why, but his concern for her clothes didn’t diminish his mastery at all.

“After you.”

The stairs to the basement were wide and gracious, with dark wood treads. There was a home theater in the main part of the basement, a home gym in the front, and down the hallway a laundry room. Just beyond there, behind a locked door, was the dungeon. It extended under the courtyard, so anyone expecting the hallway to stop at the end of the main floor would think it a small storage room.

Cal had the key. He swung open the door and flicked on the lights. “Ohmigod.”

Sara had her usual visceral response to the dungeon. She loved parts of it and hated others. Either way, her pulse and breathing always sped up.

Bruno had designed it to look like an Edwardian manor house. The ceiling was coffered in dark wood, a pale gold damask covered the walls above the gleaming wainscoting, and a massive Oriental carpet covered the floor. The rest was custom-designed BDSM equipment. A spanking bench, a St. Andrew’s cross, a four-poster bed, a throne-like chair with an elaborately carved back and legs. And, of course, the cage.

Cal went straight for the cage. “Who can I call to remove it?”

Sara froze. “I…uh, I don’t know.”

Cal nodded once. “Mac will know. Forget I asked. Forget it was ever here.”

Easier said than done.

“Sara.”

She flinched.

“I told you to forget it was ever here. Even if you can’t do that, please respect my authority enough to stop staring at it.”

She blinked, then looked up at him. “I’m sorry, Sir.” She tried to dial back her terror. “What can I show you first?”

He glanced around, then pointed at the cabinetry along one wall. It looked like the built-in drawers and glass-fronted cabinets one might find in the dining room of an English manor house. “Let’s see the toys. I like toys.”

Sara liked some of the toys, too. “All right.” She pulled open shallow drawers with their velvet-lined compartments for clamps, clips, restraints and bindings. Another drawer contained vibrators, dildos and butt plugs. A tall cabinet had hooks for crops, whips, canes and floggers.

“Mac says he’ll give me a lesson on impact play.” Cal slanted a smile at her. “No need for you to be my guinea pig.”

She knew he was reassuring her, but quixotically she wished he would practice on her. She didn’t like the idea that he’d be at The Club, learning on a dummy or, worse, one of the slutty masochists who let anyone whale on them. Maybe she could say something to Mac…

“Sara,” Cal said in his Dom voice, the one that put her immediately in the mood for sex. “I want you to pick three items for me to use tonight. Not any of the crops, of course, but anything else you like.”

She sucked in a shaky breath. Cal’s face was stern but generous. This wasn’t about pain or punishment. She really could choose her favorite toys.

Nipple clips, but not the most painful pair. She selected a pretty set of round black clamps.

Padded cuffs that could be clipped together.

Final choice was her favorite vibrator. Master Bruno wouldn’t let her use it often because she came so easily with it. If Cal ordered her not to orgasm, it would be a painful choice, but he’d wanted all her climaxes last night. Be willing to be lucky, she guessed.

She placed the items in Cal’s hands.

“Very good. Last thing you get to decide. Which piece of equipment do you want me to use?”

That was easy. “The chair.” Maybe he’d spank her as well as play with the toys.

Cal folded his arms. “Very good. Take off the bra.”

She unclipped it, peeled back the cups and let it fall until it dangled from her fingertips. Cal took it, folded it carefully and left it on a table near the doorway.

He put his hand at the small of her back, just as he had at the restaurant. Funny to think she’d removed only two pieces of clothing, yet she’d gone from respectably dressed to a walking wet dream.

Dominating Their Virgin Sub by Jenika Snow dominatingtheirvirginsub

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Story Rating: 3.5 out of 5 paddles

Sting Factor (kink): 3 out of 5

Review:

This is more of a short story than a full blown book, and because of that, the details are a little lacking. It was a very hot read, with complex characters, but no real suspense, or major plot.

The story takes place in the future. Maylene has been trained since she was a little girl to be a submissive to be sold at auction. When the time comes, she is sold to Nikolas and Griffin St. Michaels. Both are Doms, but Griffin is looking for a permanent sub and wife, while Nikolas just wants to have someone to dominate. Griffin is immediately smitten by Maylene, but Nikolas stays aloof. Can Maylene overcome his resistance?

The book contains bondage, anal play, double penetration and caning.

Reviewed by Karen

Captive by David Ellis captive

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ISBN-10: 0992303400

ISBN-13: 978-0992303402

Story Rating: 2 out of 5 paddles

Sting Factor (kink): 3 out of 5

The perfect couple marry and go off on a beautiful honeymoon in South Africa. Hugo and Ben are a gay “power couple”. They are in their mid-twenties and life is good. They love each other.  They have great jobs and they are getting married! What more could they want from life?

With a set up like this, how can it go wrong? This story is just messed up for me. I’m not a big fan of cheating. It’s one thing if it is an open relationship. Poly relationships are fine and actually quite arousing. In this one, it almost feels like a one-upmanship which is unappealing. Hugo and Ben come across as flirty sluts. With them being young, gorgeous and well hung, it’s understandable. It also makes them rather shallow.

The characters in this story don’t do it for me. I’m neither a fan of Hugo nor Ben. It’s not that they make mistakes or that they aren’t perfect. It’s their lack of respect and consideration for their lover which is disappointing. They play into the perception that gay males are not able to commit because they will fuck anything in sight.

The plot of this story is what makes it interesting. The twists and turns do generate a good suspense. It keeps the reader guessing and wondering what will happen next. Some of the behaviors of the characters don’t make sense. Hugo’s behavior with a hotel staff member and then later on at a club seems out of character. The secondary characters are also odd. Why would anyone offer up their home to a stranger to stay in?  This is just bizarre to me.

The BDSM part is more to illicit shock than anything else. The gang banging and bondage scenes are definitely non-con. They fall in the spank bank fantasy world because these can’t actually be done for this period of time without serious injury or death. There does happen to be death because one of the scenes is snuff play. Snuff is not one of the fetishes I enjoy. Reading about it doesn’t arouse me. It’s obviously popular as there are a plethora of BDSM snuff free fiction available. Not my kink.

While the BDSM scenes of torture can be considered graphic, they don’t actually cause much emotion. This is because it’s written in a manner which is a bit boring. It comes across as IKEA sex. Slip A into Slot B.  Slip C into slot D. This is especially apparent in the spit roasting of  Ben.  Where’s the emotion? Where’s the dirty talking? If Ben were to describe his horror or if the “evil” kidnapper were to express their arousal at the depravity, it would have been more interesting.  Perhaps describe physically how Ben feels as his ass is pummeled over and over again. Does his anus feel ripped up like glass shards stabbing into him? Does he feel his anal rim pulsing due to being swollen from all the hard thrusting? What about fisting? Do his eyes roll back and he scream raggedly as a thick meaty fist punches into his gut? Does he cry out as he feels the hard edges of a ring on a guy’s fist as his raw insides are scraped bloody? No, no such details are provided. For a kidnapping rape-fest, this is rather mild with common sexual fantasy glossed over and fading into black.

This tale almost felt like two disjointed stories taped together.  There’s Hugo’s sexual awakening after his marriage and life without Ben. Then there is Ben’s kidnapping and mental breakdown.  While these two characters are tied together by marriage, there is very little interaction between them to present a couple in love. They say it repeatedly, but it’s not apparent. Because it doesn’t feel as if Hugo and Ben are so closely bonded, their separation loses the emotional impact required to generate angst in the reader. This can be seen through Hugo’s actions. Within days of Ben’s disappearance, he’s jacking off into a huge crowd at a nightclub and sleeping with other men. This is within a week of his marriage.

This story’s resolution is a bit out there. While the journey from beginning to end is curious, the ending is a letdown. It’s not a happily ever after which is fine. I feel disillusioned with Ben’s behavior, who he ends up with and how another happy couple’s life is wrecked. And yet, Ben ends up with a good life. This m/m kinky tale is for those who enjoy unusual suspense with a dark undertone.

Reviewed by Book Addict

We are looking for authors and publishers who would like to write guest blog posts and/or participate in contests. We will accept ebooks and print along with any swag we can mail to readers. Email the address below to get in on the action and to get our mailing address! bdsmad

Starting October 1st we will be celebrating our second anniversary!  We’re super excited and plan on having a month long party. We are going to have guest blog posts by some of the hottest BDSM authors, fantastic prizes and giveaways, and more of our kick ass reviews. If you are an author or publisher and want to participate send an email with OCTOBER in the subject line to ladylucretia@bdsmbookreviews.com.

And book cover ads are just 20.00 until September 24th. Email info@bdsmbookreviews.com to get your cover on our site in time for the celebration!

Confirmed attending:

Eden Bradley

Jim Lyon

H.C. Brown

Susan Swift

K. R. Haynes

Vella Munn

Manuela Cardiga

Brenna Zinn

Lily Harlem

Claire Thompson

Jennifer Kacey

Charlotte Boyett-Compo

Ian Mason

Gianna Simone

Ivory Quinn

August Renfelt

I.G. Frederick

Tammy Jo Eckhart

Lucy Felthouse

Cynnara Tregarth

Reggie Alexander

Cassidy Browning

1 pair of handcuffs + 1 blindfold + 1 whip = three things you need to have one wild BDSM night of fun.

At least that was what I thought before I began researching the BDSM lifestyle for my story – Yours, For Now.  Turns out you need much more to have a successful BDSM relationship. Yours for Now 333x500

One thing you must have is RESPECT. One definition of respect is ‘to value and admire’.  When you value or admire someone you want to see them happy.  If respect is absent in your relationship then there really is no point in you trying to practice BDSM. I’m no expert on the subject, but I think there has to be some level of respect if I am going to let you dominate me in the bedroom.

Another thing that is an absolute must is TRUST. If you’re going to tie me up or handcuff me for an extended period of time, I have to trust you to know that you are actually going to release me when we’re done. If you’re not, then this is not BDSM this is kidnapping.

I have to trust you to know that when I use my safe-word you will stop. Not just because we have an agreement but because you RESPECT me and don’t want to do anything to hurt me. (For the record, if I had a safe word it would be pineapples.)

RULES AND REGULATIONS – from my research I have learned that the best BDSM relationships have rules and regulations. Some people even sign contracts to make sure everyone understands the rules.  For instance, if I lived that lifestyle, with my hubby of course, one of my rules would be to never, I mean never tie me up and leave the room. Why? Because of spiders, I hate spiders and if you leave the room one may crawl on me and I won’t be able to get if off. How horrible would that be?

Seriously, both parties must establish what they are willing to do and have done to them before they embark on their erotic journey. Now is not the time to be shy. Put it all on the table so that no unexpected problems arise in the future. I know the rule I stated above – about never tying me up and leaving me alone because I hate spiders, may seem childish. But, in my mind it makes complete sense and if you are my partner and you Respect me you will make sure that you never do that to me. Also if I trust you, I would know that I have nothing to worry about because you would never break your promise to me.  They all tie in together.

After you establish your rules, agree on a safe word, and designate who gets to be in charge…that’s when the fun begins.  That’s when you get to let your imagination run wild and come up with naughty ideas to bring you and your partner pleasure.  Nothing is forbidden as long as it makes you and your partner happy.

If I lived a BDSM lifestyle, I think I would enjoy it more if I was the one in charge, the Domme. Not everyone woman wants to be the Domme. If you were living a BDSM lifestyle, which role would you prefer, the role of a Domme or the role of a Sub?

I already shared what my safe word would be if I had one (Pineapples), what would yours be?

Feel free to comment and share your opinions. One lucky commenter will win either a mini-book necklace or a pair of mini-book earrings. (You get to choose which item you’d prefer.)

You can find more about Yours, for Now on the Entranced site, you can also find the buy links here as soon as Yours, for Now is available:

http://www.entrancedpublishing.com/imprints/thrills/yours-for-now/

 

About the Author:

Hi, my name is Siren Allen. I’m a writer and lover of all things erotic and romantic. I reside in southern Mississippi where I write steamy romances that are guaranteed to make you blush. When I’m not listening to the characters in my head and jotting down their adventures, I am busy working as a Clinical Laboratory Technician.

I love to travel, preferably with my husband, so he can do all of the driving. I enjoy time with my family, who are just as silly as I am. I have no children…yet, wish me luck! My hobbies are reading, writing and shopping, though I hate trying on clothing. If I wasn’t a writer or a Laboratory Professional, I would probably be a Secret Agent. But that’s the beauty of being a writer; you can create your own world and be whoever you want to be. In my imaginary world, I am Queen and my siblings are my minions.

 

You can Find Siren Allen here:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/authorsirenallen

Website: http://sirenallen.com/

Twitter: https://twitter.com/SirenAllen

Goodreads: http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/7163788.Siren_Allen

There is a tour wide giveaway for the blog tour of Yours, for Now. These are the prizes:

- 2 10$ amazon gift cards

- 2 e-copies of Yours, for Now by Siren Allen

- 1 e-copy of The Makeover, by Monica Garry-Allen

- 1 e-copy of Lovers Unchained by Siren Allen

- 1 piece of jewelry of your own choosing from Loyaltee Forever https://www.facebook.com/pages/Loyaltee-Forever/286336724735379

Here is the link to the rafflecopter giveaway:

http://www.rafflecopter.com/rafl/display/1000e428