What is it about BDSM that makes people so hot for it? Good question. There’s nothing wrong with plain old fashioned sex, but when you get bored, and you can, there are other options.
Bondage is about trust between lovers. If you’re willing to have someone tie you up, you’d better make sure you have the faith in them that they won’t harm you. Unless they are cops, of course and you did something illegal. You have to let them bind you. It’s the law. But, in the bedroom things can be rather stimulating when you’re tied to a bed or in an erotic contraption. The attention given by your master/mistress should cause pleasure or pleasurable pain, not agony. It’s the titillation and suspense of not knowing what your partner will do to you and knowing you can’t stop them that gives the thrill of the ride.
My suggestion? Bring some keys or a knife to free yourself and keep it under your pillow if you’re not sure. There is usually a ‘safe’ word the submissive will use if things go beyond what they can take or want.
Dominance for some is exciting. It’s never meant as abuse. This form of sexual gratification comes from a dominant figure, or sadist/master/mistress, and a submissive, or masochist/slave. It’s all about who gets to be ‘on top’ and in control. Some people love to be boss while others prefer to allow the rule, however the dominants/submissives can switch places. It’s all about the fantasy and fun in a world of sensations.
Spankings, whippings, tickling, and sweet tortures are common in BDSM. The dominant can have an emotional release like crying and feel insecure after ‘punishing’ their partner, but that’s when the makeup comes in. This is the yin and yang of the sexual acts. Good/bad, harsh/tender.