Edyta Zaborowska is a pen name. The social acceptance of a way of life like mine is in my opinion not accepted enough to publish the books under my real name.
In my principal profession as a classical musician I often perform in front an audience. Considering that it is better when these two different worlds remain strictly separated.
Are you actively involved in BDSM? If so how do you identify yourself? Dom(me)/sub? Top/bottom? Switch?
I am 100% – and without compromises – Domme. I have developed in the past four years a set of tools of various instruments to enforce my goals and desires with my sexual environment. I make use of the following measures which I also often combine with each other:
- dominant latex outfits of almost all kinds,
- masks and toys like mouth gags, strap-on, dildos,
- physical (and sometimes very painful) punishment with whip, ring crop, cat o´nine tails, switch and bamboo stick,
- verbal dominance,
- bondage with steel, ropes, chains, cuffs,
- deprivation of oxygen,
- mental punishments such rejections, exclusion or orgasm prohibition,
- little rewards like apply the attention.
At what point did you decide you wanted to write BDSM/kinky-themed erotica?
About four years ago I wanted to log on to a BDSM community here in Germany. For this I had to say a few words about me and my development for the profile. When writing the short profile text about me, I noticed that I had been through an exciting development from a rather nondescript office clerk to become finally a Dominatrix. So I wrote more: I wrote about my beginnings, the first experiments with the different varieties of BDSM, my first experience with fetish/latex lingerie.
I wrote more and more, and suddenly I realized that I had already written almost 100 pages. At this point I decided to use it for a novel. Then I added a few imaginary fictions (tension, mystery and crime) into my own autobiographical story. The idea for my first novel with autobiographical traits was born: “Fly with me, my Black Swan!”
Is there an area that is BDSM/kink-related that you haven’t written about yet that you’re interested in?
I am a dominant woman. Therefore I write my stories from my own dominant perspective. It could be a challenge to collaborate with male sub to write a “double story” with the same plot – one story from my perspective and one from the sub.
Do you do any “hands-on” research when you’re writing BDSM/kinky themed erotica?
Lots of the erotic passages I´ve written in my stories were done in real life. Meanwhile I possess a lot of experiences on which I can relate for writing the sex scenes in the stories. My inspiration is my real life. And I am open to new experiences I can use for my next books.
What is your favorite fetish? Why?
Soon after my encounter with BDSM in 2007, I understood the fascinating and provoking attraction of tight and shiny latex on the female form above all. Latex has the unique feature of accentuating and emphasizing my female figure in an eye-catching way like a second skin. Also there is that extraordinary arousing feeling caused by this material against my naked skin. So while I gain immense pleasure from dressing in latex, it also emphasizes my sexual image to my maid and my slave. Combined with high-heels, latex gives a very feminine appearance: legs appear longer, the butt is accentuated and the whole figure becomes more alluring to the eye.
Latex has become an indispensable part of my sex life to underline my dominance and aloofness. In addition, I have developed in the past four years a set of tools of various instruments to enforce my goals and desires with my sexual environment.
What might be something of interest to your fans that you don’t think they know about you?
I have a weakness for elegant and well-dressed men (like Don Draeper in “Mad Men” or Frank Underwood in “House of Cards”. And I am frightened of spiders and have a loathing of slugs!
At this point in your career, do you think you’ll write more BDSM/kinky erotica?
Here in Germany I´ve already published three BDSM-novels with Ewa and Hanna as main characters. Meanwhile the whole “Black Swan” theme has been developed to a kind of serial with each accomplished stories. In all books the reader will meet Hanna and Ewa and the Black Swan as an erotic-mystic being and symbol of the woman’s development to a kinky Femme Fatale.
At the moment I have written the manuscripts for two further kinky novels, one of them will be published in Germany in fall/winter 2014.
I hope that the sales of my first novel “Fly with me, my Black Swan!” will develop so well that I can come up with the money for the translation of my second German novel “Der Tanz des Schwarzen Schwans!” (The dance of the Black Swan) into the English language.
What’s the most surprising piece of feedback you’ve ever received from a fan of your writing?
It was not actually a feed-back. Two years ago I read a lonely hearts contact ad in the newspaper. In this ad a man wrote: “Who has read Edyta Zaborowskas novel – Fly with me, my Black Swan! – and wants to life out with me the life and development of Ewa and her lover in the book? Chiffree: xxx”
When you’re writing BDSM/kinky-related erotica, is there a particular movie or music that you might watch or listen to that helps you get in that frame of mind?
While writing a story or while living out my passions in a session I love to hear classical music. My favorite Artists are Johannes Brahms and Ludwig van Beethoven.
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Edyta Zaborowska was born in 1970 in a small village in south-eastern Poland. Her childhood, youth and education were marked by the decline of socialism and a continuing strict Catholic moral background. Following high school, she studied music and art in Wroclaw. At the age of twenty-two, she moved alone to Germany with no knowledge of the German language and against the wishes of her family. “Armed only with a backpack, a musical instrument and a few dollars I had to learn what it means to stand on one’s own feet!” This was followed by various positions in commercial management and musical engagements in Germany and overseas. “Fly with me, my Black Swan!” is her first novel.
Review on BDSM Book Reviews: http://www.bdsmbookreviews.com/2014/01/28/review-fly-with-me-my-black-swan-by-edyta-zaborowska/
Edyta Zaborowska, Fly with me, my Black Swan!, Books on Demand, ISBN 978-3732246182, Paperback, 188 pages