BDSM Book Reviews Author Interview – Lisabet Sarai
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When you first started writing, did you have any idea you’d be writing BDSM/kinky books? Do you write in any other genre?
My first book was deeply involved with BDSM. Raw Silk chronicles a woman’s quest to understand her sexuality and her discovery of her submissive nature. Sounds like a million other BDSM books, doesn’t it? LOL. Well, not exactly! The book is set in Thailand and includes a great deal of rather outrageous sex in addition to the BDSM scenes, as Kate explores her fantasies and desires.
I write in many other subgenres of erotica, including erotic romance. I’ve written lesbian and gay stories, ménage, paranormal, science fiction, even a bit of steam punk and historical. I have the strongest personal connection, however, to my BDSM work, because more than anything else, that’s what pushes my own personal buttons, sexually.
Do you use a pen name? If yes (or no), why?
Yes, Lisabet Sarai is a total figment of my imagination. I live and work overseas, in a country where my writing could get me into a significant amount of hot water, so I work hard to keep my real self and my authorial self separate. On the other hand, I chose the pen name while I was still living in the U.S., so that’s not my only excuse. My real name is pretty ordinary; I wanted the author of Raw Silk to sound exotic and mysterious. I was lucky with the nom de plume I concocted. This was actually when the Internet was in its infancy, but I was fortunate to choose a unique name. As far as I know, I’m the only Lisabet Sarai in the universe – or at least on earth! Certainly if you Google me, you won’t find much competition.
Are you actively involved in BDSM? If so how do you identify yourself? Dom(me)/sub? Top/bottom? Switch?
I’ve had one BDSM relationship that totally changed my life and my perception of myself. However, I’m not currently active in the BDSM community. My husband, although sexually adventurous, has no interest in any aspect of D/s – he finds my fascination difficult to comprehend. So I rely on my fantasies and my memories.
I’m mostly submissive, though I can imagine playing a dominant role under certain circumstances. Certainly, I’ve written many tales from the dominant’s perspective.
At what point did you decide you wanted to write BDSM/kinky-themed erotica?
Was there something that happened to you in your life or career that made you want to begin thinking about writing BDSM/kinky-themed erotica?
When I was in my mid-twenties, I was initiated into BDSM by one of my lovers. The intensity of that experience marked me forever. G and I had an active (although long distance) relationship for several years, but due to misunderstandings, I married someone else. I don’t regret that, but I still consider G to be my Master. He and I now live half a world away from one another, but we are still in touch. After thirty years, the connection between us remains strong.
Is there one area of BDSM that you tend to write about more? Why do you think that area creeps into your writing more than some others?
I focus more on the psychological and emotional aspects of BDSM than on the physical. I’m most interested in the experience of surrender on the part of the submissive and the thrill of power when writing from the dominant’s point of view. My books include floggings, spankings, bondage, nipple clamps, electric play, fire play and other kinky activities, but for me, those are expressions of the underlying relationship between the Dom and the sub – not ends in themselves.
One aspect of the power exchange relationship that I find particularly arousing is the sub being “forced” to admit that she (or he) actually wants to be dominated, beaten, and used. The shame and embarrassment only make the situation hotter, in my view. The dominant requires total honesty, but in return, offers the sub acceptance and approval. Those of us who have kinky desires form a special society. It’s incredibly exciting to be recognized and welcomed.
Do you write BDSM/kink erotica based on what you find interesting or sexy, or do you write more for your audience?
Of course I consider my audience when I write. In particular, since many of my books are erotic romance, I sometimes need to tone down the intensity of my BDSM encounters. Some of my scenes may be too raw for romance readers. On the other hand, I concentrate on what I find most arousing, namely, the psychological and spiritual dynamics of BDSM.
I think there’s a big market for more extreme, physically oriented BDSM than what I write. I could move in that direction, but I suspect I wouldn’t enjoy the process of writing as much. Also, there are so many BDSM clichés – I think some readers are looking for those same familiar (and yes, hot) scenarios. As for me, though, I’d rather produce something more original, even though I know I could write more stereotyped kink that would sell well.
What have you written in the past that you think your BDSM/kink fans might find interesting?
Many of my books include BDSM. I’ve already mentioned Raw Silk. My novel Incognito includes male dominant, female dominant and F/F scenes, as well as some very kinky age play, cross-dressing, bondage, menage, anonymous sex… well, a bit of everything! Ruby’s Rules includes one of the most intense femdom scenes I’ve ever written, as well as some graphic lesbian BDSM. I have two collections of BDSM short stories available, Rough Caress and my recently released ebook Just a Spanking. Erotic romance fans may enjoy The Understudy (M/F BDSM) or Crossed Hearts (M/M BDSM). Let me think – have I forgotten anything? LOL
Do you do any “hands-on” research when you’re writing BDSM/kinky themed erotica?
I wish! Not these days. However, I often ask my Master to read and comment on my work.
At this point in your career, do you think you’ll write more BDSM/kinky erotica?
Of course. It’s what comes most naturally to me, what I return to again and again after experimenting with other genres. It’s part of my soul.
If someone new to your work is going to start with a story, which one would you recommend they read first?
It really depends on what side of the kink fence they’re coming from. I recommend that romance readers try my paranormal BDSM novella Rendezvous or The Understudy. Hard core BDSM afficionados would probably appreciate the stories in Rough Caress or the novel Ruby’s Rules.
What is your favorite flavor ice cream? And since this interview is for BDSM Book Reviews, vanilla is not an option!
Pistachio, or green tea. Is that kinky enough?
Website, links info:
Website: Lisabet’s Fantasy Factory – http://www.lisabetsarai.com
Blog: Beyond Romance – http://lisabetsarai.blogspot.com
Group blog: Oh Get a Grip – http://ohgetagrip.blogspot.com
Yahoo group: Lisabet’s List – http://groups.yahoo.com/group/lisabets_list
Goodreads Author Page – http://www.goodreads.com/author/show/83387.Lisabet_Sarai