Writing romance and especially erotic romance has allowed me to explore my comfort levels. I’m one of those individuals who will try anything once for the sake of pleasure and sometimes twice, if I’m not sure. And if it feels really good—well—let’s say I’m a repeat customer. One of the comfort level exploration issues is self-pleasure, or in other words masturbation.

I recently explored this avenue in writing and found it to be very liberating. Mind you masturbation is not for every character, but it should be for everyone Remember the song Oops…Oh My by Tweet. Yep, that’s what she was talking about, and there’s probably a host of other songs, but that one popped in my head.

So why did I add self-pleasure into a love scene. Simple, it heightens the eroticism. Think about it for a second or two. What better way to get acquainted with your body and learn what pleasures you than to do a little exploration of those erogenous zones. In exploring your body, you can then better communicate to your lover what turns you on. And one of my favorite visuals is watching my man stroke himself back and forth.

But masturbation isn’t just using your fingers to slid between those slippery folds, a toy is a nice way to explore too. Ah yes, I feel the tingles sliding down my spine already. Incorporating a handy dandy vibrator can help achieve an orgasm faster and make the climax more intense.

Wait…need a moment…

Okay. I’m back.

Still on the fence about masturbation, okay then, here are some practical reasons. There are other health benefits as well and they can be found at the link below. At this point I”m sure you’re wondering what the downside could be, well you’ll just have to read the articles to find out.